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Now we are at the last day of the year and it has really been a fruitful year for me. Since my last post in July, I have been to wonderful places like Cairo, Egypt and also Jordan. And, during these trips I have managed to visit the Wonders of the World such as the Pyramids in Egypt and Petra, Jordan. I am really amazed of the work done by the people that build the pyramids and also the Petra’s rock buildings in Jordan. Here’s some of my photos of the pyramids and Petra:

So, I was thinking if we, human beings can really build these wonders thousands years ago, we can even create more wonders. If you have visited Dubai, UAE before, you will know what I mean. They have all types of man-made wonders there. Highest building, largest made made islands, etc.

We have so much power to create ‘Wonders’ if we seriouosly put our mind together. Therefore, in the last moment of the year I would like us to create more ‘WONDERS’ for the world. For the last few months, we have more bad news than the good news so instead of us worrying, complaining,… Let’s focus our energy of making next year a better year.

Lastly, I would also like to share with you a video below. This video is the actual “Last Lecture” given by Randy Pausch in Carnegie Mellon University. This is a must watch or you can also purchase his bestselling book. “The Last Lecture”. Randy has just passed away not so long ago and this book is written when he found out that he has only a couple of months to live and he was going to give his “last lecture” to the world. Instead of talking about his sickness, he actually talked about his stories of fulfilling his dreams and how he helped others to fulfill their dreams too. Go watch this hour long actual “Last Lecture” now below and tell me how you feel… HAPPY NEW YEAR!

“Yesterday is history,

Tomorrow is a mystery,

but Today is a gift.

That is why it is called the present.”

by Master Oogway from Kungfu Panda movie.

TODAY is the greatest GIFT that you have daily but what do you do with it?

Sometimes when we receive something so often (every day) that we do not know how to appreciate it any more. For example, when we receive so many similar gifts then we will value less of that particular gifts because we human tend to value scarcity, right? That’s why we always always put away the Greatest Gift (Today) that we have because we know we are going to have plenty of them.

Now, think of it this way. When suddenly you know that this greatest gift is going to be taken away, how would you react to this situation? I want you to think and get a piece of paper and write down what are you going to do if this is the last gift left for you. In short, you are not going to receive any new gift or present what are you going to do with the last gift?

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Now, take each of these items and come up with action plans on how to achieve them now.

Remember from now on, live each day as if it is your last and live it with passion!

With recent posting of Jack Canfield’s article, I would like to share with you my own experience. There are three important steps that I personally used all the time. They are:

1. Visualize
2. Act As If
3. Take Massive Action

Visualize

All things are being created twice. First in our mind and before being created in real form. Just look at the products that we enjoy today. They are an idea in someone’s mind before they are being created, right? Same thing happen to us and our dreams and goals. First, we must be able to visualize as vividly as possible what our life is going to be like even before it actually happens. One of the useful tool you can use is called Visual Board. You can just get a piece of card board and then cut out the pictures of the things that will remind you of your goals. For me, I use microsoft powerpoint and create a page of pictures that remind me of my goals. For example, one of my goal is to speak in a new country every year. So, I’ll put up the picture of the country that I want to speak in and sometimes because of kiasu mentality so I put a few countries’ pictures that I want to speak in.

Act As If

After visualize my goal then what I will do is to Act As If I am a renowned speaker and I continue to visualize the process of being invited by different companies from the countries that I wanted to speak in. Then, I will act as if I am already that speaker and I imagine how I impress the audience with my training and how I help my clients improve and deliver results that they wanted.

Some people think this may be something crazy because it is just pure a mind play only. When I started off, there is a small voice saying that to me too but, luckily there’s another louder voice told me, “what do you got to lose if these visualization didn’t come true?” So, what the heck? I just do it anyway. Any how I guarantee you will definitely feel good feeling about it. But don’t stop there. The next step is a very important step to convert your dreams or visualization into REALITY.

Take Massive Actions

If you miss out this one step, I can guarantee you almost 100% your dreams will not come true. After you take the second step of Act As If then you can analyze your current state compare to what you want to be, basically you will know the gaps that you need to Take Massive Actions to close the gaps. Normally, I would map out during my own coaching session and this is a very structure way on how let your gaps show up so that we can come up with actions roadmap for yourself.

This is not a guarantee easy way but I guarantee if you seriously follow these three steps, it will move you closer towards your goals. Now back to the one goal that I set few years ago about speaking in a new country a year in order to become an international speaker. I actually realize that dream 6 months after I set the goal and frankly, when I set the goal I have no idea on how to achieve that goal at all. And, thank God while taking these three steps that I share with you, today I have spoken in 10 countries now. In fact, I have the chance to speak in more countries but I have to turn down due to my heavy schedule. I am sharing with you this story is to inspire you to take these three steps and start realize your dreams too.

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I am going to ask you to do something very weird right now.

Firstly, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Second, let’s say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?

The answer to the number one question is up to you.

But, the answer to number two question can be pretty generic. Although people will not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will most probably have an idea of how you are feeling.

Here’s another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen?

You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind.

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – unless, of course, you are a great actor.

And it doesn’t end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you.

The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative.

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.

Negative thoughts, on the other hand, have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a sad event.

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude.

We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely carry a positive attitude.

You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.

If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.

And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.
If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn.

As always, if you are beset by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome.

You do not have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day.

So, let’s start adopting a Positive Attitude today!