Are you feeling comfortable with who you are and what you have now? If the answer is YES, then you are in your COMFORT ZONE. Is this good or bad for you? Let’s listen to what Brian Tracy, a world famous speaker and author talks about our COMFORT ZONE…
Now tell me what do you think…
Remember last week your assignment is to find someone that can help coaching you. Have you found your coach already? If not, STOP reading further and go find someone that you respect and ask them to be your coach and in return, offer yourself to be their coach as well. Now this process will help you learn to be a Great Coach. You can click on the below green icon showing “Share This” and then you can email your friends or potential coach to get them to read the Success Moments ezine and then once they understand the purpose, you can ask them to be your coach.
Once you have someone ready, now here are some of the steps that I want you to take:
1. Draft out a contract stating both (if you coach each other) will be responsible for their own success and will put in all your effort to take actions on the tasks or activities that you have committed to your coach. Sign your name on it.
2. Decide what is the duration of your coaching session and how frequent you want to have this session. My suggestion is to start with max. 1 hour every week.
3. Next tell your coach about the goals and what are the immediate goals that you want to achieve in short term (such as 30 - 90 days)
4. Then, you need to commit to do the actions that will bring you towards your goals. It may be something that you are not comfortable to do. Remember the video above, a Leader always find things that are out of their comfort zone to do. So, once you continue to do that, these tasks will no longer be uncomfortable. That’s how you will grow and attain success.
5. So, as a coach you will push your coachee to move out if their comfort zone and achieve more.
This week I want you to do the above 5 steps and let me know whether it works or not. I can tell you it will definitely works but it doesn’t mean that everything will suddenly flow smoothly. You’ll definitely have obstacles but if you persists, you will definitely taste success. Have you seen the motivational video on the handicapped dancers? If not, CLICK HERE to check it out. Lastly, here is a video to show you that we can perform more than what we believe we can do and you just need a coach to push us through to our SUCCESS.
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Coach is commonly found in the sports world. I would say all professional players, no matter which sports they are in, have their own coach or a lot of them coaches. Now, have you wondered why a world-class player such as Tiger Woods would still need a coach? Do you think that the coach can be a better golf player than him? I don’t think so. But, why does he spends millions of dollars to get someone who cannot play as well as him to be his coach? He must be crazy, right?
No. He is not crazy because he knows that Coaching is a MUST for him to succeed in his game. So are all the successful sports players. Now let’s look at ourselves. Do you want to achieve success? By now, if you go through the previous learning videos and lessons, you should know what your success is, right? If not, stop reading now and go back to the first post and go through the whole learning again. Knowing what success is for you is the most important thing for you to be successful. If you don’t know what success means to you then how do you know whether you are successful or not. It is like you want to take a trip but you don’t know where are you going to. In that case, do you think you can reach your destination? No. Because you don’t even have a destination.
Now, if you already know your destination and you have work out your plan like I show you using the templates that are in the member’s download area, then now it is time to take action. However, do you sometimes get busy and suddenly you are going back to the same old way of doing things, instead of doing something different that will help you move towards your success. There’s a saying, “Old Habits Die Hard”. It is not easy to eliminate an old habit and also not easy to develop a new habit. That’s why we all need a coach as well to help remind us when we divert from our improvement roadmap and give us a kick if we stop doing what’s right. Do you agree?
I was introduced to coaching many years ago and I even took the professional coaching certification to learn about coaching and at the same time, I also work with a number of coaches to help me to achieve my goals. And, I can gladly tell you that I never regret engaging a coach to work with me because since I have someone to coach me, I actually successfully achieve more of my goals than before.
Now if you do not know what coaching is. Here’s a short video to show you what it is:
So, now your assignment for this week is to go out and find someone who shares the same interest with you wanting to improve or kaizen themselves (you can tell them about personal kaizen or the best way is to ask them to subscribe to this Success Moments and go through these lessons) and get him or her to be your coach. Your job for this week is very easy only, just to get someone agree to your coach and you can offer to be his or her coach in return.
For the next lesson, I will give you more tips on how to coach each other to be successful in a simple way.
A friend of mine sent me this video and it is about two dancers. And, they have just won the Silver medal out of 7000 competitors in China. You may ask what is so special about just winning the silver medal, right?
Now, I want to read their story as highlighted by CCTV channel in China before I show you the video of their dance. This is a MUST READ story and I guarantee you that they are definitely not what the ordinary dancers.
Here’s their story:
“The girl (Ma, Li) was a beautiful promising professional ballerina when she lost her right arm in a car accident in 1996. She was only 19. Her handsome boy friend walked away from her. She tried to kill herself only to be saved by her parents. Her love for her parents gave her the strength to live. She learned how to live her life independently.
She learned how to write Chinese beautifully and how to do many things including combing her hair, which she had to cut short from the waist-length to shoulder-length. She learned to cook and to wash clothes … In a few months she opened her small bookstore.
Five years later in 2001, she was invited to compete at the 5th national special performing art competition for handicaps and won the gold medal. That success gave her the hope to return to her beloved stage.
In 2002, a handsome 20-year-old young man (Li, Tao) madly fell in love with her. She ran a way from him for fear of being hurt again.
After she disappeared in Beijing, Tao searched her up and down despite his parents’ strong objection and ridicule. He finally found her dancing in a bar. They have never been separated since.
They were very broke when SARS was spreading because all theaters were closed. In 2004, he got a license to be her legitimate agent and was trying to help her develop a unique performance. In a cold snowy night, when the two huddled in an underpass to wait for the sunrise in order to catch a bus after a long day at a movie shooting site working as extras, she suddenly had the urge to dance in the snow with him. She had used her dance to tell him her story so many times before and this time, after their “dance” ended, he suddenly realized that THIS should be her unique performance.
In September 2005, she ran into a 21-year-old young man (Zhai, Xiaowei). He was being trained to be a cyclist for the national special olympics. He had never danced before.
He climbed on a tractor when he was 4 years old and fell off it and lost his left leg. His dad asked him, “The doctor will have to amputate your leg. Are you afraid?” He couldn’t comprehend what would be so different so he said no. His dad said, “You are going to face many challenges and difficulties in life, are you afraid?”
He asked, “What are ‘challenges and difficulties?’ Do they taste good?” His dad laughed with tears, “Yes, they’re like your favorite candies. You just need to eat them one piece at a time!” (Then his dad ran out of the room in tears.)
So he’s always very optimistic and athletic with a great sense of humor. He had tried high-jump, long-jump, diving, swimming, and just settled on cycling. His coach believed that he would be able to get 2-3 gold medals in the national special Olympics games. (In the video interview, you can see him doing a bridge with great ease!)
He initially didn’t understand how he could “dance,” so Li invited him to see her performing “Hand in Hand” with another male actor. He felt that he saw a perfect soul dancing on the stage and agreed to give it a try.
Li & Tao treated him like their younger brother and they stayed under the same roof during the more than 1 year of intensive training and practice. One would not be able to imagine the kind of challenges and difficulties they faced. He had NO dancing background and she is a perfectionist. There are so many touching stories.
Much determination has gone into the making of this performance. Just for that one “drop” move at 3:41 of the clip, he landed her on the hard floor more than 1000 times!!! To get the move right, they started at 8 a.m. and got the first successful move shortly after 8 pm!
All they did was to train and to practice from 8 a.m. to 11 p.m. day-in and day-out until the three of them ran out of money in early 2007 …
The rest is history. In April they were one of the finalists among 7000 competitors in the 4th CCTV national dance competition. It is the first time a handicapped couple ever entered the competition. They won the Silver medal with the 99.17 high score and not to mention the highest audience popular votes. They became an instant national hit.
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Now, do you agree that they are not the ordinary dancer? To me, they are indeed a pair of extra-ordinary dancer. Now watch their dance video here…
I hope their story does inspire you. When you think about it, when we have all the hands, legs, and almost everything but we always feel we lack of something to be successful. If you think about it, how can a dancer without arm partner with another dancer without leg (double whammy) be successful? To normal people, they are bound for failure. But, even with double the problems or challenges, they are able to excel.
But, it doesn’t mean that everything is a bed of roses for them. Look at the time they put in to learn and practice. They are willing to put in all their heart and soul and just to make what they do a success. What I learn from them is that if we really want to achieve something, don’t TRY but really put in all our heart and soul to make them come true.
In the next few days, it is the Chinese New Year again and it is a time of thanksgiving again and we should appreciate with what we have and start utilize the talents, skills, knowledge, etc that we have to make our goals come true rather than complaint of what we are lacking. So, take this opportunity to think again what you can do to make this world a better place to live in and in Personal Kaizen, we call this the hansei time. Don’t just be busy, busy, busy in this Chinese New Year. Remember to stop and think for your success.
Finally, I would like to wish those who celebrate Chinese New year a Happy and Blessed New Year and don’t let any obstacles stop us from succeeding like these two dancers.
By the way, if you want to watch their touching interviews (it is in Chinese) below are the videos. And, don’t forget to give us your comments on what you learn from them.
